“There is no greater pleasure than simultaneously being both loved and free”
We are a couple that has jumped head first into the swinger lifestyle and have enjoyed it ever since. We took this step initially out of curiosity, but have felt an everlasting sense of freedom as we have met other like minded couples and groups that have been open to sexual exploration and just straight up fun.
Our adventures in the lifestyle started pretty early into our relationship although we did not fully know it was quite called the lifestyle. We had small experiences as a couple, little risque moments with a few stragglers after late night parties at our home, vacations in which we would meet attractive strangers and engage in flirtatious and touchy exchanges in a hot tub at night. But once we got married we spent our time basking in the honeymoon phase of our marriage. But after a few years we had a conversation about heading to a local swinger’s club. After a few weeks we decided to head to the swinger club. And that night would be the night that changed all nights forever.
“After a few weeks we decided to head to the swinger club to see what was up, and that night would be the night that changed all nights forever.”
We went from going to clubs to going to private parties to going to lifestyle vacations. The experience has led us to have stronger open and honest communication, explosive sexual experience, and make so many friends. Although the sexual experience have been great, it is the special moments we spent with our friends that have made all the difference.
We were so amazed by the lifestyle that we decided to not only immerse ourselves in it, but educate ourselves about it as well. We did our research, listening to podcasts and exploring the lifestyle based on what we learned. But we realized unsurprisingly that the lifestyle was dominated by older White couples. And I got nothing but love for them folks, cause honestly, they know how to f*cking party! But on a cultural level, they were different, and we felt very different in these environments, despite how welcoming and friendly they were.
“Although the sexual experience have been great, it is the special moments we spent with our friends that have made all the difference.”
The podcast came up as we realized that we had so much to share that was not being shared in the podcast lifestyle podcast community. Questions about being feeling fetishized based on race, feeling like the ‘other’ at parties and clubs where virtually no other Black people were present, and the hyper vigilance that comes with guarding oneself from racism and microaggressions when you are at your most vulnerable state (naked and horny as f*ck), were not being discussed. But these were issues Black people and other folks of color face often in the lifestyle.
Although there are many black sex positive podcasts out there, there were not many Black couples like us speaking about sexually explicit topics and the lifestyle specifically. We use this podcast to help other Black couples who are thinking about exploring non-monogamy or have already dared to traverse the swinger lifestyle and just want to listen to the steamy details of our adventures meeting couples, playing at private parties, and attending the hottest swinger clubs in the country.
“…racial fetishization, microaggressions and feeling ‘othered’ in predominantly White crowds were experiences many people of color face in the lifestyle.”
To be honest, we love talking about our experience and we try to be educating, funny, and sexy. Thanks so much for checking us out and we hope you enjoy the show.